Category Archives: Anger. Resentment. Forgiveness.

Grieving for strangers: what to do with our hearts, after Newtown

Like any therapist, I hear a lot of sad stories.  Betrayal, illness, tragic loss.  Empathy is a requirement of the job; we journey with our clients, taking in their struggles and their suffering.   Yet, paradoxically, we must learn to manage … Continue reading

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How to cope with poor listeners, especially the ones you care about

Listening is harder than it looks.  Perhaps you’ve shared from the heart, offered your best prepared argument, bravely expressed your deepest conviction – and life proceeded as if you had never spoken.  We feel empty when we are not heard.  … Continue reading

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Finding our voices: the sharing of anger, when Limbaugh calls one of us a slut

Politics inspires a lot of quiet private anger. But this week, a tipping point was reached when Rush Limbaugh, conservative radio ideologue known for vitriol, suddenly awakened public outrage, by calling an articulate, thinking young woman, testifying before Congress, a slut. Words have consequences. Who knew. Continue reading

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Food obsession in the news: Why we are suddenly angry about fried cheesecake

Late breaking news: Food Network star Paula Deen, famous for her lush, buttery Southern home cooking, has type 2 diabetes. Go figure. Her public role has created controversy, and makes us think about our food obsessions. Continue reading

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Holiday travel angst: how to find peace no matter where you are

If you’re far from home right now, or en route to a holiday destination, there’s a decent likelihood of onboard stress. Frustrating, too, as the holiday journey has such good intent: reconnecting with loved ones; replenishing our spirits on a … Continue reading

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How to cope with passive-aggressive people, without losing your mind

Anger comes in many flavors.  Sometimes it is unambiguous, featuring yelling, colorful language, hurling of objects, slamming of doors.  Sometimes it is expressed in measured words.  Sometimes, though, anger remains hidden, simmering quietly and finding an indirect way out.  This … Continue reading

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Emotional spring cleaning: letting go, making space

Stress has been piling up lately, as it does whenever relationships are complicated, the economy is shaky, and politics are polarized.   Unexamined stress accumulates gradually, like the miscellaneous stuff in your top bureau drawer, and we avoid going there.   We … Continue reading

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