Category Archives: Grief

Regrouping: what to do with yourself on the day after

We all have days that are off script, interruptions in our normal lives, when gravity is temporarily suspended.  Some exceptional moments are luscious: somebody we miss shows up unexpectedly; our candidate wins; some cosmic key turns, and we fall down … Continue reading

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Grieving for strangers: what to do with our hearts, after Newtown

Like any therapist, I hear a lot of sad stories.  Betrayal, illness, tragic loss.  Empathy is a requirement of the job; we journey with our clients, taking in their struggles and their suffering.   Yet, paradoxically, we must learn to manage … Continue reading

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What not to say to a grieving friend

Normally thoughtful, articulate people choke, when caught unprepared with a response to grief.  Every now and then, our friends catch us off guard with terrible news;  fortunately for us, most of us are out of practice with finding the right … Continue reading

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Grieving what has never been

Making peace with losing what we want to keep is hard.  We understand  impermanence in the abstract, but still, our hearts crave continuity.   The loss of a job, a relationship, or a loved one leads us to offer tender rituals … Continue reading

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Staying afloat: finger painted turtles, the kindness of strangers, and Hurricane Katrina

Five years have passed now since The Storm came ashore by New Orleans, and the surreal drama of Hurricane Katrina began to unfold.   It is part of our folklore now.  Louisiana people had gone through this many times before; that … Continue reading

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If a pill could end your grief, would you take it?

Grief is a natural process that brings suffering.  So it has always been, when we lose someone or something with great personal meaning in our lives.  Mental health professionals have twisted themselves in a pretzel trying to figure out what … Continue reading

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