Category Archives: Relationships

Does self-confidence turn into narcissism?

Be bold, we have all told ourselves.  Stand up for yourself.  Find your voice.  Confidence is an attractive quality, in love and politics and literature and finance.   Confident people capture our heart.   But does it ever become too much? Yes.  … Continue reading

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Healing from PTSD: your therapist may be a golden retriever

We learn a lot about ourselves in wartime. And we get help in unexpected places. Continue reading

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How to cope with poor listeners, especially the ones you care about

Listening is harder than it looks.  Perhaps you’ve shared from the heart, offered your best prepared argument, bravely expressed your deepest conviction – and life proceeded as if you had never spoken.  We feel empty when we are not heard.  … Continue reading

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Zen in a noisy workplace

Sit with this paradox: where is the calm center of the chaos that is your work day?  If you can find it, you may find your greatest capacity for the work, while holding onto your wits. This kind of language … Continue reading

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Introverts make noise: how to find our place in a world built for extroverts

Suddenly it’s ok be an introvert.  This is welcome news; American culture has not always been so tolerant. Preferring quiet reflection to social banter has, for decades, been seen as personal eccentricity, if not a sign of social anxiety or … Continue reading

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Solo on Valentine’s Day: We’re fine, thanks. So why are we depressed?

Being solo in a culture designed for couples means you regularly need a sense of humor. In February, when we are barraged with images of rosebuds, twinkly gifts and Valentine spa retreats for couples, the ante is raised. Being solo is ok, right? Continue reading

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