Category Archives: Trauma and other bad stuff

Grieving for strangers: what to do with our hearts, after Newtown

Like any therapist, I hear a lot of sad stories.  Betrayal, illness, tragic loss.  Empathy is a requirement of the job; we journey with our clients, taking in their struggles and their suffering.   Yet, paradoxically, we must learn to manage … Continue reading

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What hurricane images stir up: reflections on being spiritual but not necessarily religious

Millions are still in darkness, as we begin to absorb the vastness of Hurricane Sandy.  The sharing of video and digital images, now that we are constantly connected, have made us all witnesses in real time.  First comes exhalation.   Before … Continue reading

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Healing from PTSD: your therapist may be a golden retriever

We learn a lot about ourselves in wartime. And we get help in unexpected places. Continue reading

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Our scars make us more interesting

If you’ve gotten this far without being wounded by life, you’ve been incredibly fortunate. There is no need for shame in bearing scars. But are we overlooking something? Continue reading

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Meltdown: maintaining calm while the reactor is glowing

There are not enough  words for the tragedy unfolding in Japan: earthquake, tsunami, awakening, nightmare scenario, meltdown.   While we bear witness, the narrative changes by the hour, outcome unknowable and terrifying.   It is possible for the damaged reactor site at … Continue reading

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Violence and mental illness

Street violence managed to shock us this week, when it was directed toward a member of Congress.  Big surprise, the gunman is said to be “unstable”.   Rep. Gabrielle Giffords has begun her slow recovery from a gunshot wound to the … Continue reading

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Split personality vs being of two minds

Let me just make this clear: you’re probably not crazy, even if it feels that way sometimes.  Being at odds with yourself, about changing your career or getting a tattoo, or whether the guy you are texting right now is … Continue reading

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